If you were to build a family of your own, what picture comes to your mind? Well, am sure we all desire a family that functions together, don’t we? As Christians, our relationship with people around us especially with our own family reflects our personal relationship with God. How is your relationship with God? If we desire to build a great family of our own, then we would need to check first our heart if it is tuned-in to God because only Him is able to give us the wisdom we need to pursue a Christ-centered family. Here’s exactly what you need to know about a Christ-centered family.
A Christ-centered family is truly a foretaste of heaven. It is composed of a Christ-centered husband who submits to the Lord, a Christ-centered wife who submits to her husband and Christ-centered children who obey and honor their parents. While we cannot impose Christ-centeredness on others, we can model it by our own obedience to Christ beginning right in our very homes.
Husbands (Ephesians 5:25-31).In Ephesians 5:25, husbands are commanded to love their wives, just as Christ loved the church. What exactly does this mean? Love is not a feeling but a commitment. As Christ loved the church: the church my friend, is you and me – a group of imperfect people called out by God to live godly lives. Since Christ loves us though we are not perfect, husbands ought to love their wives though they are less than perfect. Just as Christ gave Himself up for the church, the husband’s love is to be sacrificial. Jesus died for us because He wants us to be sanctified. For the husband, this means seeking the best for your wife. You are her spiritual leader and your life must be her best example of a Christ-centered life. You ought to love your wife as you love yourself, nourishing and cherishing her. Communicate your love to her in her unique love language. Her love language may be words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service or physical touch.
Wives (Ephesians 5:22-24). Wives, submit to your husbands in everything. Being subject to one’s husband has nothing to do with inferiority. The Bible does not teach that women are inferior to men. Galatians 3:28 says, “There is no longer slave nor free man, male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” This deals with an assigned and God-defined role or ranking. It has to do with orderliness. Your husband is not perfect. He will always have flaws, that’s why you are to pray for your husband for him to become more Christ-like. God is fully in charge. He knows best. Submit to your husbands as unto the Lord. As the wife, you have the unique responsibility and privilege of affecting the climate of your marriage. Ask the Holy Spirit to make you a life-giver alongside your husband.
Children (Ephesians 6:1-3). Children, you are commanded to honor your parents. Honoring your parents through obedience and respectful attitude is ultimately obedience to God. Honoring our parents is understanding their heart, what pleases them, without them having to tell this to us. We obey their instructions, helping them on some household chores, and it also means that when they grow old, we take care of and provide for them. Remember that honoring our parents is the first commandment with a promise (Exodus 20:12).
Parents (Ephesians 6:4). Parents, you provoke your children when you are over-controlling, negative, critical; when you compare your children to others and when you break your promises. Remember, you must adjust your parenting style and pattern it after Biblical principles. As your child grows up and matures, you must loosen your control. Give advice and pray for them. This allows them to become more Christ-like.
Now that you understand what a Christ-centered family is, each role of a family member, and the God-defined role, put this to use and start modeling it inside your home. One important note: your desire to pursue and build a Christ centered family is only attainable if and only if you have Christ living in you. If you don’t know Him yet, I encourage you to seek Him and invite Christ into your heart allowing Him to work through you and be a positive influence in your own family. Pursue and build a Christ-centered family!