“Moses said to the Lord, “Oh Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant, I am slow of speech and tongue. The Lord said to him, “Who gave man his mouth? What makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”
– Exodus 4:10-12
Moses was an insecure person. He saw his frailties instead of what God could do for him. He saw his limitations instead of seeing what God could do in his life.
When I was a child, it was very difficult for me to deal with people. I was also insecure. I remember those times when we had visitors at home, I used to stay inside my bedroom until the visitors would soon leave. I could not play outside. I could not do what I wanted. My insecurity crippled me.
I tried to figure out what had caused me to be insecure at a very young age. I remember an incident when I would go outside to play with other kids but then, those kids would tease me because of how I look— a young apathetic girl with an unlikely appearance, scarred-skin due to insect bites and quite heavy for my age. No one complimented that I was pretty except my parents and my grandparents of course.
A lot of people suffer from much insecurity regardless of their personalities, economic status, family background and achievements. Even a gregarious person who is often a life-of-the-party might be so much insecure. A big boss working in a multi-national company, earning a lot of money, staying in the office too late, might have insecurities about family matters. A dashing woman who has a very pretty face might be so insecure because she was dampened by her boyfriend.
Bad experiences in the past which underestimated our self-esteem caused us to be less confident about ourselves. We have dreams we desire to be fulfilled. We have great tasks we want to execute. However, because we are imprisoned with insecurities, there are so many dreams which remain to be dreams – some people died already with unfulfilled dreams.
God wants us to be the best that we can be. He wants us to be free indeed. We are His creation. We are created in accordance to His image. We only need to discover our ultimate purpose and see how great His plans for us are. We have such God-given potentials that need to be unleashed.
We might have failures in certain aspects of our lives that could ruin our self-esteem.
Our self-esteem needs to be anchored neither on the achievements we have attained nor on our physical appearance – not even through our financial status. Our security and confidence should be based on God.
How we can overcome our insecurities? First, we need to surrender our lives to God. Second, we have to begin trusting God that He has great plans for our lives – God values us. Next is to spend some time each day praying, reading the Bible, claiming God’s promises, and worshipping God. Then find a church that teaches the Bible, and encourages a personal relationship with Jesus. Begin to develop friendships with sincere Christians and fix your eyes on Jesus. Remember, we each differ in respective talents, abilities, and beauty, but we are all necessary and important in the eyes of God. It’s high time to focus on God’s adequacy, not your inadequacy.